Dating after relationship break up
How do you navigate the complicated waters of a post-break-up friendship? Yes, there are people who say that they were able to slip straight into a friendship after they broke up without missing a beat.There are also people who win the Mega-Millions lottery with a single ticket.When you’re in a committed relationship together, it’s natural to have a greater expectation of involvement in your partner’s life.
This goes both ways, by the way; just because you’re totally fine with knowing everything (and everyone) your ex gets up to doesn’t mean that they’re going to feel the same way about you.Some people are totally cool with hearing everything – size, shape, smell, frequency, etc.Others are fine with acknowledging that their former squeeze is seeing other people but would really rather just assume that their genitalia withered and fell off and they’re now as sexless as a Barbie doll.It’s worth noting: how you feel when you first try to be friends may not be how you feel the further you get from your break-up.
Be willing to revisit how you’re feeling and where you’re drawing those lines as time goes by. One of the hardest gaps to bridge after a break-up is accepting that the way you relate to a friend, even a very close friend, is different from how you relate to a lover.Trying to force a friendship too early means you’re going to fall right back into old patterns with your ex and that spells trouble.